Last Updated on May 17, 2022 by Thalia
One of the main issues surrounding self-care is that people feel guilty about having “me-time”
But the thing is, we should never feel guilty about anything that supports our well-being.
So here’s my cheat sheet on feeling less guilty about self-care, including a few simple ideas that will inspire you to carve out some time for yourself.
When I first started working from home in March 2020 I didn’t take any time to just be me.
I was new to building a business so I looked at social media to help guide me through the process. As let’s face it, it’s our main form of communication.
I wasn’t being mindful of the content I was consuming and I can now see that it was the wrong type of content for my personality.
It was very “hustle” oriented and everyone seemed to be working long hours, 7 days a week with zero rest.
I assumed it was the norm to be constantly busy as an entrepreneur. The message that was being portrayed was, “if you want it badly enough, you will work hard enough.”
I, therefore, felt like I couldn’t take an hour out of my day to watch TV, read or just chill because it was seen as lazy.
It made me feel unworthy and believe I didn’t want “it” badly enough.
Table of Contents
- Balance over hustle
- How to feel less guilty about “me-time”
- 6 simple self-care ideas to add to your routine
- One last thing…
- Final Thoughts
Balance over hustle
Personally, I’m not someone who agrees with the hustle culture.
It just doesn’t work for me. I’m not someone who likes to be busy all the time, I get overwhelmed easily and I hate feeling stressed out.
I prefer a much slower pace to life.
I love going on leisurely walks during the day and spending time cooking lunch. Watching TV in the afternoon helps me concentrate better on my creative work rather than listening to loud pumping music.
I also enjoy spending a few hours at night doing a jigsaw puzzle.
So after a few months of burnout and being emotionally drained, I relooked at what self-care truly meant to me and shifted my perspective on it.
I did my research. I tested out a few things and changed the content I was choosing to follow. Goodbye hustle culture and hello pro rest and self-care!
And this is a really important point I want to make.
Whether you realise it or not, we are so influenced by what we consume. And if you are consuming the wrong type of content for your personality then you might be trying to be something you’re not.
So take a step back and reevaluate who you follow.
Does their energy and content directly align with yours?
Remember, you are in control of what you consume. If something triggers you or you don’t agree with something then you have the right to choose to not see that content again.
Unfollow, mute, block. Protect your energy.
How to feel less guilty about “me-time”
I’ve now realised that self-care and rest are essential.
Not only for your well-being but for your productivity as well.
The more you rest and take care of yourself, the more nourished you feel, so you can keep showing up as the healthiest version of yourself.
To be honest, you really can’t have one without the other.
And that’s why I’m making it my mission to promote a healthy work-life balance; one where productivity and self-care can work side by side and you don’t need to sacrifice one over the other.
So how do you get rid of the guilt?
Now, this really is a “practice makes perfect” concept as you need to train your brain to know that self-care is necessary for you to function.
The more time you dedicate to self-care, the more aware you’ll become of how much you need it and the less guilty you will feel.
But start small first.
Do a 10-min self-care ritual each day until you feel comfortable enough to dedicate more time to doing the things you love and that bring you joy.
Besides if a friend said to you, “I’m taking an hour out of my day to watch Gilmore Girls because I need to rest”, you wouldn’t turn around and say, “ok, that’s lazy! You should feel really guilty about that.”
You would probably say something along the lines of, “sounds great, I wish I could do the same!”
So treat yourself like you would a friend.
Your cheat sheet
- Read up on the benefits of self-care
- Unfollow the “hustle” culture content on social media (only if it doesn’t align with the person you are or want to become)
- Start small and do a 10-mins self-care ritual each day
- Treat yourself like you would a friend
I’m making it my mission to promote a healthy work-life balance; one where productivity and self-care can work side by side and you don’t need to sacrifice one over the other.notes by thalia
6 simple self-care ideas to add to your routine
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut with your self-care routine.
Doing the same old ideas over and over can get tedious and boring. It hasn’t been easy in lockdown either, as the majority of self-care now needs to happen at home.
So shake things up by introducing new ideas into your routine constantly as well as trying different types of self-care.
Yup, you read that right!
There are about 8 different types of self-care to get excited about and to keep you busy:
I’m someone who loves the simple things in life so I always favour recreational self-care over the other types of self-care. It also allows me to connect to my inner child!
So here are my current top 6 simple self-care ideas. I hope they inspire you to carve out some “me-time” this week.
1 | Join an online cooking class
A couple of weeks ago, me and my partner took part in a Japanese Online Cooking Class with Yuki’s Kitchen.
And it was honestly the most fun I’ve had in a while.
The class was in partnership with The Wasabi Company and centred around dishes that could be cooked with Wasabi.
We made a Wasabi Vodka cocktail and a Wasabi Sardine Dip to start, before moving on to the main event which was Wasabi Mushrooms and Fried Wasabi Teri-Chicken.
It was absolutely delicious and completely worth it!
So my top self-care idea for you this week is to do an online cooking class.
2 | Create a memory box
I’ve been adding to my memory box for a few years now and it just brings me so much joy and comfort. I’m not someone who dwells on the past but I love that nostalgic feeling of looking through old pictures, tickets and cards.
So if you have a bunch of memorabilia just laying around the house then give it a home.
Create a memory box and dig into it every time you need to find comfort.
3 | Write a bucket list
There’s so much I want to do post lockdown that this idea has actually kept me going and focusing on the positive things for a while.
I also believe that lists are visualisation at their finest.
If it’s written down what’s to say it can’t happen?
So write down all those things you want to achieve and start taking action to make them happen.
4 | Take part in a Mindfulness Challenge
This is probably the toughest idea on this list but I had to include a challenge somewhere right?
Sitting in silence for 5-8 minutes is slightly daunting, uncomfortable at first and will take some getting used to.
But the truth is, taking some time to focus on your thoughts and feelings can help you feel more relaxed and boost focus.
If you fancy giving a Mindfulness Challenge a go then hop over to BestSelf and sign up.
It’s completely FREE!
5 | Do a jigsaw puzzle
I’ve loved doing jigsaw puzzles ever since I was a kid.
And since becoming more open to self-care and less guilty about taking “me-time” I’ve started to incorporate the idea of doing a puzzle into my daily routine.
They are a great activity to unwind to but still keep my brain moving.
Plus, once you’ve finished it, you will feel a sense of achievement.
I’ve also perfected doing them in bed as I now buy the World’s Smallest Puzzle and use a tray to do them on.
So pour out a glass of wine one night, get cosy and jigsaw puzzle.
6 | Rewatch your favourite TV show
Who says you can’t watch The Hills or Gilmore Girls for the 6th time?
If it makes you happy and brings you a sense of calm then I say do it.
Honestly, there’s nothing more comforting than this. Especially when it’s raining outside.
One last thing…
I hope you find these self-care ideas super helpful and they inspire you to carve out some “me-time”. Even if it’s just for 10-mins or so.
And if you need help getting started, let me introduce you to the Daily Wellness and Self-Care Planner.
This 18-page planner provides you with the accountability and structure you need to plan rest & self-care so you can wave goodbye to burnout for good.
Use it to:
- Build a morning & evening routine that works for you
- Successfully build better habits
- Track sleep
- Map out your meals & exercise for a healthy week
- Reflect on the day and practice gratitude
- Plan out a week of self-care activities
- Journal your thoughts & feelings
- Plus much much more
I can’t stress enough how important building a self-care routine is for your mental health and personal development.
So spend the time trying out some new activities.
Rate them, time them. Ask yourself “how did this make me feel?” “Does this activity work for me?”
I think the key is to always do more of what makes you happy.
But it’s up to you to build that routine and not feel guilty about it in the process.
And if you need any further guidance, my inbox is always open.
Until next week,
♡ Thalia xx