Last Updated on May 23, 2022 by Thalia
It was an absolute pleasure to have Jasmine Irven, founder of Sustainable Bliss Collective chat with me about her wellness journey and why she chooses to prioritise self-care.
I loved reading through this Q&A. It spoke to me in many ways and Jasmine’s points are ones I 100% agree with and feel inspired by.
So, I hope you find this Q&A just as encouraging and uplifting as me.
♡ Thalia xx
I’m Jasmine, a Certified Meditation Teacher and also in the process of being certified in NLP, EFT, and hypnosis.
I founded the Sustainable Bliss Collective membership and community to help inspire ambitious humans to reprioritize themselves and their self-care so they can build an intentional life they’re excited about, rather than looking outside of themselves for validation and direction.
My goal is to help you reduce your stress and overwhelm by disconnecting with your to-do list, and what’s expected of you. And instead, helping you find calm and contentment with where you are in life and how you’re choosing to move forward.
I guide weekly self-care classes at Sustainable Bliss, write blog posts on self-care, and regularly share reminders and encouragement on the importance of taking care of yourself.
More on my well-being journey
I’ve always been super ambitious.
In the past, I heavily identified with terms like “overachiever,” “people pleaser,” and “type A.” I believed these terms served me and would make me more successful.
But, after working in corporate for a short period of time and letting my work completely overtake my life and health (no boundaries, late nights at the office, no self-care, never taking my lunch), I ended up fatigued and incredibly burnt out.
I ended up being diagnosed with Hashimoto’s and found myself needing to find ways to reduce my stress and replenish my body.
I started eating more whole foods and cooking more at home, got a gym membership, discovered yoga, meditation and journaling, and simply started taking better care of myself.
After seeing the impact these changes had in my life, I decided to document them by starting my blog, and later got certified in nutrition and meditation.
In 2020 I left my corporate job, transitioning to full-time freelance work so I could have more flexibility in my schedule and spend more time building Sustainable Bliss.
My self-care routines and wellness habits are continuously evolving and are never perfect. But I know now that I have an incredible number of tools and resources to lean on when I need support and that’s what I love sharing with others!
Wellness Q&A with Jasmine
What does a healthy work-life balance look like to you?
When I was working in a corporate job, this answer was a lot clearer to answer.
I had my mornings and evenings reserved for myself and my work was neatly packaged into an 8-hr time slot.
When I started prioritising my life, back when I was still working in corporate, achieving more balance looked like actually taking my lunch. It was being clear with the time I was at work and when I was at home; aka not responding to emails in the middle of the night or on weekends.
Achieving more balance was also leaving at a reasonable time each night from work.
However, since transitioning to entrepreneurship the lines are a little more blurred.
There is no one except myself dictating my work hours, and no steady paycheque coming in simply for showing up.
Beyond that, I really enjoy what I do now, which makes it easy to say yes to every opportunity that presents itself.
So, I’ve really had to shift my perspective of what a healthy work-life balance looks like.
The reality is, that every day looks different.
When I look back at my week if I’m able to see that I nourished different areas of my life (my fitness with daily walks, my relationships with a call to my mom or a date night with my boyfriend, my mental wellbeing with a meditation class, etc), I feel like I’ve achieved a sense of harmony between work and life.
And that’s truly what I’m striving for.
But if I am feeling burnt out at the end of the week, it’s a sign that I need to refocus my priorities a little.
How do you make sure you are regularly prioritising your mental and physical well-being?
I’m a sucker for accountability.
I sign-up for workout and meditation classes so I have the incentive to show up.
I also have multiple coaches that are aligned with my values and offer a constant check-in opportunity to see how I’m nourishing myself.
And I consistently show up to teach self-care classes which remind me to prioritise myself too so I can be there fully for my clients.
I also try to set boundaries for my mornings and evenings by not being on my phone and giving myself time for self-care before I jump into my work. (The evenings are trickier for me but I’m working on it!)
I know now that overworking is simply not the answer. It’s a short-term fix and over time the stress and overwhelm adds up!
My previous health concerns are a constant reminder that what I do each day plays a role in how I feel and how I show up. I never want to get to that burnt-out place again.
So, I try to do things every day that serve me – even when I have a lot on my plate.
The mindset shift that I don’t have to complete a certain number of things before “rewarding” myself with self-care has been a game-changer.
Self-care is ongoing. It’s a necessity, not a reward, and it should be intertwined into everything you do.
And, if I can offer one more shift that’s changed things for me, it’s to give yourself grace.
I used to have really rigid routines and that served me for a season, but especially through COVID, I’ve found my energy levels just aren’t the same as they used to be.
So, rather than sticking to a specific schedule, I’ve allowed myself flexibility. Some days I get up early to journal or meditate or go to the gym before diving into work, and other days I sleep in and give myself time to watch home decor on YouTube while I sip my coffee.
Both serve me in different ways and recognizing that has reduced a lot of my stress around trying to show up perfectly.
How do you show yourself self-love and self-care? Are there any particular activities you indulge in and what inner work do you do?
Of course, I love the typical practises like meditation, breathing exercises, journaling, reading, and working out and try to do these as often as I can throughout the week.
These were the practices that helped me in a kind of scary and shocking time in my life, and so I think they are really comforting to me now.
And, because I saw the changes in my health and well-being from them, I also recognize the power they hold.
Beyond that, one of my favourite self-love practices is cooking the majority of my meals at home.
I really find comfort in the slow process of cooking and creating something nourishing for myself (whether it’s a chickpea curry or banana bread).
Within all of this, my main self-care practice is really listening to myself. Asking myself what I need so I can give myself that grace and nourish my body properly.
It’s disconnecting from the online space and trusting that I have a lot of the answers and guidance I need within. And it’s giving me time to simply be and appreciate where I am.
I am also always taking more certification programs to develop my skills, which also really forces me to step out of my comfort zone and do the inner work to show up fully.
What is your favourite productivity hack?
Good sleep, and morning movement!
It’s crazy to me (but probably shouldn’t be) how much more energy I have when I simply take care of my body.
On a less “typical self-care coach answer,” I also love setting a timer, throwing my phone across the room, and committing to work on one thing for a specific period of time.
My boyfriend and I can often be heard asking each other “what are you on your phone for” to ensure we haven’t got sidetracked unintentionally.
Which self-help or personal development book would you recommend and why?
As someone who struggled/still struggles with a lack of confidence and showing up, I love the You Are a Badass series by Jen Sincero.
They make me feel incredibly empowered and inspired, and remind me that I have unique gifts to offer the world that no one else can!
They remind me to trust my inner knowing and that my thoughts, opinions, and beliefs are valuable. And they remind me that I am completely capable of achieving the vision I have for myself.
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What would you say to your 21-year old self?
Keep going because things will work out. Your hard work will pay off. Trust your intuition. You’re moving in the right direction.
And of course, don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way in the pursuit of your goals.
And lastly, what’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
I think the idea is that no one really cares what you’re doing because they’re more concerned with themselves.
This sounds kind of aggressive, but I used to hold myself back from SO MUCH because I was concerned with the perception of it.
I was worried about what other people would think or say and just assumed I would be judged for everything I did.
But the truth is, people generally aren’t paying attention to you as much as you think. And those that are going out of their way to judge you or criticise what you’re doing (when it doesn’t affect them at all) are likely doing so because deep down they wish they were doing what you were.
So, focus on yourself and stop worrying so much about what others think.
As long as you’re living with integrity and aren’t doing anything to harm anyone else, what anyone else says to you is more of a reflection on them than you.
(This doesn’t mean don’t take advice or ignore all criticism. There are always opportunities to learn, but it does mean using your own discernment and asking yourself if what they’re saying is really about you, or more about them).
Where to find Jasmine
To attend self-care, meditation and journaling classes hosted by Jasmine, head to sustainablebliss.com to sign up.
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