Last Updated on May 23, 2022 by Thalia
When I first started this Wellness Q&A series, I wanted to hear from a range of different people about their well-being journey and how they practice self-development.
However, my Q&A guests have all been entrepreneurs so far.
Since growing this community, I have built connections with not only female entrepreneurs, but also people in full-time employment and students.
I always want this space to feel refreshing and meaningful and so I thought it would be beneficial to hear from someone who is actively taking care of themselves in a job.
So for anyone who is currently struggling to balance life with a job, I hope this Q&A encourages more mindfulness and self-care in your life. As well as inspire anyone who is close to graduating the importance of rest and patience.
♡ Thalia xx
I’m Meriem Alili, a full-time Quality Engineer who is also obsessed with self-development.
More on my well-being journey
My well-being and self-development journey began as soon as I started my internship at the end of University.
I was always the nerdy girl in the class, so my only focus was on my studies.
But by the time I started my internship I was burnt out. I felt so tired, especially because I studied a very hard scientific field that took up all my time at University.
My mental health was also consumed by stress and anxiety that came from the pressure to succeed in my Master’s Degree and career.
I was also treating my body like a non-existent element of me. I had very bad eating habits, I wasn’t moving at all, and I didn’t have any hobbies or activities to pull me out of all that stress.
By the time I graduated, I realised that enough was enough and I had to balance my life and start taking better care of myself.
So the first thing I did was to create a morning routine. I created a list of well-balanced breakfast ideas to encourage me to eat healthier. I also started reading books first thing in the morning, mostly self-development books and would also journal.
Another habit I adopted, was to find hobbies and activities that I actually like to practice. And that’s when I rediscovered my love for writing.
So I created my blog and signed up for an online book club which has inspired me to write reviews about the books I read.
All of these things have helped me improve my mental health, supported me during dark times and distracted me from stressing about work and building a career.
For my physical health, I worked on balancing out my meals, moving my body every day and going on more walks in nature.
All of this has inspired me to share it with people that might also be struggling with their own wellness journey. So, I now share self-development tips on my Instagram page, and I am also working on creating more valuable content for my blog.
Wellness Q&A with Meriem
What does a healthy work-life balance look like to you?
For me, a healthy work-life balance doesn’t come from dedicating certain days for work and certain days for you.
I think you have to balance it daily by incorporating habits that support you during the long and hard days of work.
My day always begins with a good, healthy start. I enjoy eating breakfast while reading or listening to calming classic music or just sitting in the sun. Or if I have time I will go for a walk in the park first thing.
I end my day with a good workout and shower or sometimes I just have a cosy movie night.
This morning and evening routine really charges my batteries for the day and detaches me from my work state of mind, so I don’t get mentally exhausted.
How do you make sure you are regularly prioritising your mental and physical well-being?
I make sure I stick to and keep building good habits. Since practising my habits daily, I have noticed a big difference and they’re are making me feel better.
I’ve also installed an app on my phone which helps me to keep track of my habits as well as give me reminders so I don’t forget.
When I’m consumed by a lot of stress, because I can’t stop thinking about my career, I pick up my journal and start writing everything on my mind.
How do you show yourself self-love and self-care? Are there any particular activities you indulge in and what inner work do you do?
The biggest change I made to love myself more, is allowing myself to feel all the emotions I experience. I used to blame myself a lot for feeling sad or not well because it affected my work and would only make me feel worse.
So I’ve started to let myself feel whatever I feel and do what is going to make me more comfortable when I am feeling that way.
I’m now a lot kinder to myself and I relax whenever I need to.
What is your favourite productivity hack?
They just make me want to check off the tasks, so I do better daily. I can sometimes get overwhelmed by the number of tasks I have to do, but I always make sure to complete at least 80% of my tasks.
Which self-help or personal development book would you recommend and why?
The first one is The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k by Mark Manson. This book helped me a lot to drive my focus away from other people and onto myself.
I also recently discovered the book, Happiness Is All We Want by Ashutosh Mishra, which has made me more aware of the well-being practices I can do.
And saving the best for last, The Law of Attraction in Action by Deanna Davis has opened my eyes to how I can cultivate a positive mindset.
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What would you say to your 21-year old self?
You are more than just a student.
Enjoy your life. Build the other aspects of your life from relationships to hobbies and passions.
Love yourself more and take care of yourself.
And just relax.
All the experiences you are going through are building your personality and the person you are becoming.
And lastly, what’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
To live with love.
Whatever you’re doing, if you’re not loving it or passionate about it, it’s not going to work. You’re just wasting your time. So love everything you do.
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